(Alright, maybe not for just daveto. Still, he is daveto. Plus, I need to update this blog so people don’t think I’m dead. [I’m not?])
On Saturday, October 13th, 2007, I was kidnapped, tortured, and left for dead.
Let me back up.
On Monday, October 15th, 2007, I was to turn 40. As is my new birthday tradition, my plans that night were to get drunk, stoned, maudlin and melancholy, and watch Dodgeball: A True Underdog Story. Good times.
On Saturday, October 13th, 2007, I was asked, at the risk of giving away what it is that I do for a living, to be at the Hilton off 280 to get “copy” on a guy who was winning some award of excellence from a bank or something. I.e., I was doing my boss a favor.
When I got to the conference room of the Hilton where a small ceremony was to take place, I was shoved into a corner where a piano was by someone I work with a lot. I had no idea what was going on. My first thought was my “friend” had assembled several people I didn’t know so that I could play the piano for them like a trained monkey. He was sort of right.
When I slowly looked up and around, I noticed there was indeed some sort of presentation going on. Someone was giving what looked to be a power point talk about a missing person. Well, the power point presenter was my oldest brother, and the missing person was me.
That’s when I realized that my entire family — my older sister, my 3 older brothers, my mom, my brother-in-law, 2 sisters-in-law, and each and every one of my nieces and nephews save 2 — was there. They’d all come down to surprise yours truly on my 40th birthday. And boy did they ever.
My oldest brother continued his talk about where I could possibly be, all the while ignoring me. His 2 daughters came to the podium while “Fire And Rain” played; they’d inserted pictures of me as a kid into pictures of them growing up. My other 2 brothers came up with guitars in hand to plead with everyone to be on the lookout for me. The one who’s a genius at rewriting the words to songs actually looked over at me there, sitting at the piano, and said, “Hey. Mac. Do you know how to work one of those things? We’re doing a little D/C/G number, so maybe fill in the dead spots? Thanks.” They performed “Can’t You See What This Woman’s Been Doing To Me”, having changed the words to inside jokes, because the woman in question was our mom, clearly, when pictures of all the kids were shown with terrible haircuts and even worse glasses over the years, while they played guitars and sang.
Then my sister, who’d been sobbing the entire time and using a table cloth as a hanky, came up with some search tools: cases of bottled water with a label that had a picture of me when I was about 7, and an artist’s (a niece’s) rendition of what I might look like today (it was uncanny) along with the phrase, “Have you seen me?”; a bright, neon-green T-shirt with the same water bottle label; and wanted posters of me.
Then the feigned and exuberant recognition by all of them of their baby brother.
You see, I constantly miss summer gatherings and holidays with my family because I’m selfish and unthinking. Well, they’d had enough and brought the party from Ohio down to The Ham.
Then my mom gave me my birthday present. Know what it was? It was the popcorn popper, the very one, that one, that dad used to make popcorn. And the giant tomato canning bowl that went with it. It looked smaller.
I was moved beyond words. Beyond words. I couldn’t speak. (Apparently they’d read about popcorn somewhere.)
Then the cake was produced with the following written on it:
“Calling your mom: $0.97.
Driving home for for a family gathering: $67.00
Having your family come to you on your 40th:
Priceless
Happy Birthday”
The rest of the evening was spent laughing, hugging, crying. But mostly laughing. I have a very funny family.
I had to leave because I’d left the dogs out because the “job” was to have taken little more than 20 minutes.
The next day I went back and visited with everyone until they had to take the airport shuttle to catch flights. My mom stayed over. We visited all Sunday afternoon and evening at the house. The next day I went to work. Her flight left at 4ish, so I took a long lunch, at my boss’s insistence. We talked, laughed, cried a little. And off she was back home.
One of the best birthdays I’ve ever had, and I despise birthdays. And it was a perfect, perfect gift. As my mom was getting out of the car at the airport, she said, “You know, it’s just a popper. You don’t have to attribute anything more than you have to to it. What’ll you do?” And I said, “I’ll probably use it to make popcorn. If I ever have a stove again.” She laughed.
Reminded me how blessed I was to have had an excellent upbringing and how much I miss my family. That’s a good thing.




16 users commented in " The Lost Weekend, A Rendition "
Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackOnce again, because this story is so wonderful: congratulations on having such a terrific family. And I think I know why you don’t visit — not because you are selfish, but because it hurts to leave them. (Think I could get adopted?)
Close. I don’t visit because I don’t like to subject myself and my addictions on them, though I hide them awfully well. But some things you just can’t hide from your mom.
Thanks. Interesting wet blanket moment. The one that got away, whom I hadn’t heard from in 2 months, called me the Friday before my birthday and asked what I was going to do. I told her.
Then she called Monday and wanted to take me to lunch. I told her what happened Saturday night. And you know what she said? She said, “Where was I?” And I said, “Where were you?”
Then Monday night, on my birthday, she calls, proceeds to make my birthday all about her, and drops hints like she wants me to come meet her for dinner.
I didn’t. But the fact that it was all about her left a bad, mad, sad taste in my mouth. I left (blocked) that part out.
I don’t see the adoption thing as being a problem.
Great family, lousy girl. Really. Lousy. Requires you to treat yourself to prevent further infestation. Enjoy 40 — it’s the age you get to say to yourself you don’t need that kind of aggravation any more. Let me put it the way a friend put it to me while I was dating the one who I asked to run away: Life is too short to spend it with someone who doesn’t worship the ground you walk on. That’s a little much to ask for, but the sentiment is right.
Librans are supposedly charming, kind and gentle natured. So what the hell happened to you, you cold-hearted felchmonger?
You done good.
And it’s a bonus to be able to read you without having to visit that which shall not be mentioned.
ps. I mean Slate, of course, where you knew me as Zeus-Boy.
Thanks, John.
I guess I’ve heard Libras are characteristically indecisive. I’m living proof.
I’m quite pleased to see you at quiblit. Quite pleased. I’d like to wait till the pig thing’s done to comment, but I lived with Sean O’Casey’s grandson for a year. More later. Great stuff.
Again, really good to see you around, as usual.
That made me really really happy for you. Honestly, I’m just sitting here grinning.
Of the deck, my oldest brother said that since the deck was built around a giant tree, and that the tree is no longer there because I had it taken down, it was meant to be. Get the stump ground out and build your dream deck, &c.
He’s right, of course.
The oldest nephew is 27; the youngest niece is 10. They’re all beautiful, great kids.
I’m beginning to think OSU may be the Roger Fedderer of college football. Or is it Federer?
That analogy works only if the WTA factors in victories over junior high school kids at the local city park.
Strength of schedule, my Aunt Fanny…they’re going to get another beatdown in the title game if they make it past November 17.
What everyone else said.
Again, nice.
Thanks, Keif.
They gave me a real roasting. No mercy, no punches pulled. Harsh, cruel, severe. But that’s how my family shows affection: By making fun of each other. Seems to work most of the time.
Apparently they’d been planning it since Memorial Day Weekend. I was moved by the time and effort. Oh well.
Thanks, switters,
I wasn’t aware of the glitch delaying comments so thought mine had been deleted. That caused a crisis of my belief in belief, let me tell you.
Cheers.
At least there’s “fun” in the making fun. My family gatherings (extended, not immediate) don’t end without a drunken harangue or two several gallons of Manhattans or so into the evening.
happy birthday!
and, ditto.
We must meet someday…
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